As far as the "friend you haven't seen in 10 years" analogy, this person isn't the same person I knew 10 years ago. They may share a few traits with someone I used to know, but they've made some poor life decisions, done some shady things, had a sex chance, and don't even resemble the person I once knew. All of this would be fine, but when they approach me after 10 years and claim that nothing has changed, I can't trust them anymore.
Sorry bro, but that's some pretty shitty reasoning for not being friends with someone anymore.
Hah
"bro"...
If a current friend broke my trust, or did something terrible, I'd reevaluate the
"friendship" and go from there. But if someone from
10 years ago broke my trust, went off the rails, or just wasn't the person I used to know, then I'd be a fool to trust them showing up out of the blue. Especially after 10 years, and acting like everything is the same when it clearly isn't.