Thoughts.....
Make no mistake Mary's letter is about more than her children, its about herself and $$$$. After reading this I feel bad for Jamie and his kids mostly. Lets remember Scott has a mother and father also....
I believe she's telling the truth from her perspective about this. Its believable. It mirrors much of stuff we heard from members of STP and VR. To a degree I respect her point of view as a mother. Her kids have been abandoned and they are shattered. But she has to act like a grown woman and assume greater ownership for her actions.
Scott was a life long heavy drug addict and alcoholic. They burn bridges and lie to support their addiction. And to make matters worst he's an artist....unfortunately if you read some credible biographies of these genius (actors, painters, musicians, writers, comedians etc.) you'll notice most of them are full blown narcissists. They think they are better than you and me and nothing is more important to them than their 'art' and 'creativity'.
I can easily see him neglecting others to spend all of his time doing the things he loved (writing music, playing music, and doing drugs).
Today, I believe he never got clean. He identified himself as a chronic relapser. He would try and fail again. The circles these musicians travel in make it near impossible to get clean (old playmates and playgrounds). I think his addiction systematically alienated him from anyone he would have to answer to.
I also believe the heavy drug use caused brain damage. I've watched tons of interviews and performances and there is evidence to support this. He admitted to large parts of his life being totally lost in his memory. This would account for some of the things STP and she said.
Okay get ready for real grown up talk.....You may not like it.....I don’t agree with her airing her personal family's dirty laundry with (rolling stone magazine of all places) the mass media after the guy dies. In think its unhealthy for her family and a classless act. These kind of issues should be handled by trained professionals behind closed doors. These celebrities have no shame. The narrative that the fans should feel guilty about enabling Scotts addiction is bullshit.
Yes, his addiction destroyed his family and his relationship with his two children, but that’s not our fault. That’s his and hers. Most of his fans are grown ass adults we can read between the lines and don’t need a full spread in RS magazine to shed light into the disease of addiction and the damage it does to families.
Mary takes little responsibility in her letter. Now all the sudden she's not bi-polar? Truth is if you read their biographies it sounds like they are both 'borderline personality'. Similar pathologies attract each other. And yes, she is an addict as well.....hope she hasn’t forget her 12 step program.
She chose to live that lifestyle with that man and bear his children. These are the consequences. She suggests we (the fan's or society) should feel somehow culpable for Scott's self destruction and poor parenting?
Ironically I bet if someone offered her a million dollars (tomorrow) for all the 'down and dirty' details about her children’s father she wouldn’t think twice about smearing the mans name....(oh that’s right she still uses his last name).
I also think people (like her) underestimated how much this man was respected and loved for his talents. I'm actually pleasantly surprised how much publicity and respect his work has received from the mass media since his passing. Guys he was good and its deserving. He had his major flaws - but he earned that.
In the end its all politics. Why feel the need to tell us he's an atheist? After reading her 'letter' I feel a lot of the negative energy that us fans have felt on the outer edges of the network were generated from Scott's dysfunctional inner social circles.
All of these people that have offered testimony on Scott (Dean, Mary, Matt, Slash, Richard Patrick etc) all happen to be addicts themselves. When we read their 'finger pointing' we are experiencing their version of problem solving and family conflict. (victim, persecutor, rescuer -triangle) repeatedly.
If no one cared about his death she wouldn’t feel so compelled to offer her point of view. The opposite of love isn’t hate...its indifference....Mary clearly has unresolved feelings. Scott hurt her and her children.
60k a month is one hell of a child support payment. I'm sure there was some major family conflict over that over the years. Mary also seems a bit bitter towards him starting over with Jamie and her family. I can understand why.
I guess one would have to ask themselves, who gets most of the money from those ("depressing" 1967-2015 Scott Weiland) T-Shirts that sell?
I feel horrible about this. I feel nothing but sadness for Scott and his family. I still cant bear to listen to anything of his music since his passing and I've listened to him almost every day of my life. I grew up with him. As Scott's music evolved so did I. I didn't know him personally. I've never met him. He was a very flawed person I'm sure. But I still love the guy....
